For Better or Worse, Part 1
February 6, 2022
Only when you love for better or worse can you
experience the power of promise-keeping.
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one
When you love for better or worse, you can truly be because you
know you won’t be rejected.
Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
Knowing he loves me for life, no matter what allows me to trust Him and be more
vulnerable with my feelings in conversations. —Woman, married ___ years
When you love for better or worse, you can take risks and grow because you
know you have a champion.
For me, I think of security. It is a picture of Jesus’ steadfastness that I know Landon isn’t
going anywhere until he’s going home to heaven. Knowing that helps me be brave. It
gives me a base from which to explore my calling — as a mother, as a teacher, as a
follower of Jesus. Anything I’ve ever done that’s worth anything has originated from the
sturdy, sure safety net of his love. —Woman, married ___ years
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, 5 is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs. 6 Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends.
“First of all, who is it you marry? You marry a sinner. There’s nobody else to marry. That ought to be obvious enough, but when you love a man as you love yours it’s easy to forget. You forget it for a while and then when something happens that ought to remind you, you find yourself wondering what’s the matter, how could this happen, where did things go wrong? They went wrong back in the Garden of Eden. Settle it once for all; your husband is a son of Adam. Acceptance of him—of all of him—includes acceptance of his being a sinner. He is a fallen creature, in need of the same kind of redemption all the rest of us are in need of, and liable to all the temptations which are “common to man.”—Elizabeth Elliot
“But you will find yourself disarmed utterly, and your accusing spirit transformed into loving forgiveness the moment you remember that you did, in fact, marry only a sinner, and so did he.” —-Elizabeth Elliot
When you love for better or worse, you can know that you will never suffer alone.
9Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: 10If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. 11Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? 12Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
When you love for better or worse, both can know that the best of the other is still to come.
Marriage equals sanctification. At least potentially. There’s a depth, intimacy and security we get to enjoy knowing we have been and will be together on our best and worst days. I get to grow old with my best friend and see her become more and more like Jesus. Hopefully, she gets to witness and reap the benefits of that process in me. —Man,
married 16 years
When it comes to marriage: When you quit trying, you