Joey Elsky – Help My Relationships! Less Selfish, More Selfless
February 21, 2021
Help My Relationships!
Less Selfish, More Selfless
“Then Jesus said to his disciples, ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple
and take up their and follow me.’”
“The among you must be a .”
Matthew 23:11 (NLT)
Behind every relationship are two people trying to put the first.
Behind almost every relationship are two people trying to put first.
“If you’ve at all out of following Christ, if his love has made in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit to you, if you , if you care—then : Agree with each other, , be deep-spirited friends.”
Philippians 2:1-2 (MSG)
“Do out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
Two Negative Attitudes to Eliminate and
One Positive Attitude to Cultivate
Two attitudes to eliminate:
carries the idea of competition and rivalry in a relationship.
Key Question: Am I spending too much energy trying to be right in a relationship?
translates to “empty glory”; empty self-promotion.
Key Question: Do I come across as needing to be self-important and a self-promoter?
“Seeking To Win Followers”
Rather, in value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
One attitude to cultivate:
“Humility is not thinking , it is thinking about .” – C.S. Lewis
Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Philippians 2:4 ESV
Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
“Value others” – to view the other person as if they are the most important person in the room.
“In your with one another, have the as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!” Philippians 2:5-8
What’s ONE selfless thing I can do for someone I love this week?