February 14, 2021   /   Palms Baptist Church


  • Courtship: Song of Solomon 1.
  • Wedding: Song of Solomon 2
  • Dream: She dreams she loses him, searches the city.
  • Wedding Night: Song of Solomon 4.
  • Argument: Song of Solomon 5.
  • Garden. She finds him in a garden, love is renewed.
  • Notice in Song of Solon 6:11-12, she goes to a nut orchard. While walking around, she begins to think about him and even the ordinary moments of life cause her to want to be with him.

What stands out to me is the words this couple use with one another.


On the first day God created the dog. He said: Sit all day at the door of your house and bark at everyone who comes by. And I will give you a lifespan of 20 years. The dog said: that’s too long to be barking. Give me a 10 year life span and I’ll give you back the other 10.

On the second day God created the monkey. He said: Do monkey tircks. Entertain people. Make them laugh. I’ll give you a 20 year life span. The monkey said: How boring. Monkey tricks for 20 years. The dog gave you back 10, that’s what I’ll do too. God agreed.

On the third day God created the cow. God said: You must go to the field with the farmer and work in the hot sun. You must give calves and produce milk. I’ll give you a life span of 60 years. The cow said: that’s a tough life for 60 years. Let me have 20 and I’ll give you back 40.

On the fourth day God created man. He said: Eat, sleep, play: Enjoy your life. I’ll give you 20 years. Man said: What? Only 20 years? I’ll tell you what: I’ll take my 20, the 40 the cow gave you back, the 10 the monkey gave you and the 10 the dog gave you back: that makes 80, okay?

Okay God said. That is why:

–For the first 20 years of our lives we eat, sleep, play and enjoy ourselves.

–For the next 40 years, we slave in the sun to provide for our family.

–For the net 10 we do monkey tricks to entertain the grandchildren.

–And the last 10 we sit on the front porch and bark at everyone who goes by.

Ever see a guy who just barks at his wife? A lady who feels free to lacerate her husband verbally. If you are constantly unkind with your words toward your loved ones, I hope today God will make you uncomfortable with this sin. Realize, your relationships could be a lush garden.


1. Their words are

Song of Solomon 1:6: She expresses her insecurities over how she looks.

Song of Solomon 1:8-9: He responds by telling her she how uniquely beautiful she is.

2. Their words are

Song of Solomon 2:10-13: He encourages his wife to look ahead at the good future God has for them. She appears to have a painful past, a difficult family, brothers who treated her badly. Her new husband pulls her up by showing her better days are ahead.

3. Their words are

  • Song of Solomon 6:3 , Song of Solomon 7:10: There is an “only you” quality to their words. She is the standard of womanhood to him; and he the epidemy of manhood to him.
  • On their wedding night there is an unashamed passionate energy to the poems. Song of Solomon 4.
  • Our hearts follow our words.

4. Their words are

Song of Solomon 2:14: He describes their relationship as a safe place in the clefts of the rocks. Notice he loves to hear her voice. He doesn’t treat her like she’s stupid, but assumes she has something to say and contribute.

Song of Solomon 2:15: The little foxes destroy the garden. Little things we say and do in a relationship take a big toll.

What happens when you build your partner up with your words?

Love grows deeper.

Desire intensifies.


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