Essentials to Parenting
March 3, 2021
Pastors Clint & Claire Jett
RELATIONSHIPS – How Bible Relationships Translate to Our Relationships
Teaching #5 – Essentials to Parenting
2 Samuel 13:21-34
Instead of David intervening – Absalom took matters into his own hands. And, because of King David’s lack of intervention, additional harm came to the Family. Absalom’s rebellion brought death, division and defeat.
One act can bring devastation to a child and/or a family. God’s word is clear.
Love isn’t defined as soft or hard. It is inspired by commitment and devotion. It will take on a different role depending on the circumstances.
Loving our children sometimes calls for a hard conversation or a difficult decision.
Honesty is a key component to parenting. Justice isn’t the same as fairness. It has a greater degree of health. Just is proper. Fairness is a matter perspective.
Forgiveness comes with structure and structure should allow room for forgiveness. Forgiveness must lead to reconciliation.
We can’t expect anything from our children if we are not communicating what we are expecting. You get what you ask for or lack thereof.
a. Positive Reinforcement
b. Negative Reinforcement
Positive reinforcement is rewarding and celebrating your children’s successes and accomplishments.
Negative reinforcement is neglecting their accomplishments – making statements like “You could have done better’, or ‘You are not good enough.” Or rewarding the negative behavior.
Set your children up for success. It is important that you put your children in places and positions to succeed.
If you don’t establish boundaries early, it is more difficult when your children are older.
Parents put up guardrails for their children, so they don’t crash and burn. Guardrails are healthy for the children and the relationship with their parents.
7. Up and
It is imperative that you do not depend on media and other resources to raise you children – including the church.
It is definitely more convenient to let videos and cartoons entertain our children but not necessarily healthy. At times we must be the ones teaching, instructing and monitoring our children’s activities.
1. Position computers in a centralized visible location in your home.
2. Set up password access on all digital devices.
3. Monitor your children’s activities in and out of the house.
4. Have regular conversations with you children.
5. Make it your business to know who they are hanging out with.
6. Make decisions now that will affect them in the future.
7. You are responsible for your child’s well-being, physically and spiritually
8. If something is not working don’t be afraid to change it.
9. Ask more questions than your children do.
10. It is a good idea to have family meals together on a regular basis each week.