Homebuilders — Anger Danger

July 8, 2020   /   Hudson View Baptist Church

Anger Danger

-Most people who struggle with anger management readily acknowledge their anger problem – The heart knoweth his own bitterness (Prov. 14:10)

-Anger wreaks havoc in family relationships in ways. — A wrathful (angry) man stirreth up strife: (Prov. 15:18)


I. Anger is a Personal Problem

-There are generally two extremes in sinful anger (see chart):

-Anger generally manifests it self in:

1. Internalization – Clam-Up

-Examples: emotional withdrawal, crying, , sulking, retreating to another room/location, cold shoulder, etc.

2. Ventilation – Blow-Up

A fool uttereth all his mind (Prov. 29:11)

-Examples: , name calling, profanity, throwing, hitting, kicking things, biting sarcasm, acts of vengeance.

*Some people respond with a of clamming up & blowing up.

-You need to acknowledge your tendencies and your specific manifestations of anger.


2. is Key

-You will never solve your anger problems without making it your goal to become proficient in communication skills.

-Christians are commanded to communicate in at least 45 different ways in the New Testament epistles alone!

-There are 3 parts to communication (see chart ):


Eliminating Anger from Communication

A. Words

-With words…people can be motivated, encouraged, pierced, or

-With words…conflicts can be resolved and people’s problems be solved

-With words…precise meaning is communicated

-With words…God Himself to man

-With words…we communicate the Gospel to others

-With words…our minds comprehend the truth of God

-With the words of Scripture…which have been internalized by the Christian, the Holy Spirit works to transform our lives into the image of Christ

-With words…the man of God brings doctrine, reproof, correction, and instruction in righteousness

-With words…man will be

-With words…man will be condemned

*If there’s ever a time when a believer should what he is going to say, it is in those circumstances when he is most likely to become angry.

-When a person is angry, they’re at greatest risk of sinning with their words.

-(Prov. 15:28) The heart of the righteous studieth to answer

-(Prov. 16:23) The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth


B. Tone of Voice

-Often, tone of voice communicates anger than words themselves.

-Some experts say tone is 7 times more powerful than words.

-(Phil. 4:5) Let your moderation (gentleness) be known unto all men.

-(Prov. 15:1) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

-(Prov. 16:24) Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.


C. Non-Verbal Communication

-i.e. facial expressions, , eye contact, posture, spatial relationship, and touch

-So much communication is non-verbal (pride, anger, bitterness, fear, sensuality, rebellion, guilt, selfishness)

-The greatest challenge in non-verbal communication is that we are largely that we are doing it.

-(Eccl. 8:1) …a man’s wisdom maketh his face to shine, and the boldness of his face shall be changed.

-(Prov. 6:12-14) A naughty person, a wicked man, walketh with a froward mouth. He winketh with his eyes, he speaketh with his feet, he teacheth with his fingers; Frowardness is in his heart, he deviseth mischief continually; he soweth discord.

*Taken from The Heart of Anger by Lou Priolo


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