Principles to Make Decisions in Life’s Grey Areas
July 25, 2021
Pt. 1 – Principles to Make Decisions in Life’s Grey Areas
James 4:11 Brothers, do not slander one another.
Proverbs 6:16 16There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: 17haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, — 18a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, 19a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.
Rom. 14:12 So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God.
You will answer to
13Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another.
Don’t look down on, criticize or condemn others when their opinion is different than yours.
Instead of judging others, , and their convictions.
14As one who is in the Lord Jesus, I am fully convinced that no food is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean.
Be true to your – regardless of what others are doing.
15If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died.
Your priority should be:
16Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil.
Don’t create or in the church.
Don’t allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil. 17For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, — 18because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men. 19Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.
Don’t be distracted. The goal is righteousness, joy and peace –make every effort to promote and and to .
18… anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men.
20 Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food.
19…All food is clean, but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. 21It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall.
Don’t just make choices based on your – make them based on others’ !
22 So whatever you believe about these things keep between yourself and God.
Blessed is the man who does not condemn himself by what he approves.
Cultivate your own relationship with God, but don’t impose it on others. You’re fortunate if your behavior and your belief are coherent — But if you’re not sure, if you notice that you are acting in ways inconsistent with that you believe – some days trying to impose your opinions on others, other days just trying to please them — — then you know that you’re out of line. If the way you live isn’t consistent with that you believe, then it’s wrong. (Rom. 14:22-23, The Message)
- How does this make me feel? — Not does it make you feel good or bad – but does it make you feel something that is sinful. Does watching this make you fee aroused? Is this causing you to lust? If the decision or action, causes you to feel sinful or tempts you towards sin, don’t do it.
- Here’s another way to ask it: Does this increase my desire to do wrong? —It might not technically be wrong, but if it increases the desire, avoid it.
- Does this harm my testimony? — When people who don’t know Jesus see this decision, will it draw them to Jesus? Or, will it cuase them to question my faith?
- What do my spiritual authorities say?— Ask your pastor or a ministry leader. They have your best interests at heart. They want you to succeed. Ask.
- Obey your spiritual leaders and do what they say. Their work is to watch over your souls, and they know they are accountable to God. Give them reason to do this joyfully and not without sorrow. That would certainly not be for your benefit.
- What are the consequences of this activity? Long-term? Short term?—Many people would avoid their worst decisions if they would just stop and consider the consequences.
- What are others like who do this?— If the other people involved in this activity don’t represent Jesus, it’s probably the wrong place to be or thing to do.
- Will this cause confusion or harm to fellow believers?— If you make this decision, how does it affect those around you? If your actions could be a stumbling block for someone else, you probably shouldn’t do it.
- This next question has become a cliché, but it’s still a great one to ask: What would Jesus do? Who does it hurt?—
- When I do this: Who does it help? Who does it hurt? — If there are more hurt than help, don’t do it.]
- Are there principles in God’s Word that apply to this decision? It may not be specifically addressed, but are there principles that can help guide me?