How to be Your Husband’s Girlfriend
January 12, 2020 / 2
Read Genesis 2:15-23, “And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die. And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
God made man
God realized man does not do good on his own
God made a help meet “fit” for him
God made man happy
God made man make a commitment
God allowed man to have the woman
She was a help fit for him. Her primary purpose is to help him. That is where she will find the greatest satisfaction.
In 1982, Dr. James Dobson wrote this scenario of a typical frustrated wife.
”John and I were deeply in love when we got married. We struggled during the first two or three, especially with financial problems but I know he loved me and he knew I loved him. But then something began to change. I’m not sure how to describe it. He received a promotion about five years ago, and that required him to work longer hours. We needed the money, so we didn’t mind the extra time he was putting in. But it never stopped. Now he comes home late every evening. He’s so tired I can actually hear his feet dragging as he approaches the porch. I look forward to his coming home all day ‘cause I have so much to tell him, but he doesn’t feel much like talking. So I fix his dinner and he eats it alone. (I usually eat with the kids earlier in the evening.) After dinner, John makes a few phone calls and works at his desk. Frankly, I like for him to talk on the telephone just so I can hear his voice. Then he watches television for a couple of hours and goes to bed. Except on Tuesday night he plays basketball and sometimes he has a meeting at the office. Every Saturday morning he plays golf with three of his friends. Then on Sunday we are in church most of the day.
Believe me, there are times when we go for a month or two without having a real, in-depth conversation. You know what I mean? And I get so lonely in the house with three kids climbing all over me. There aren’t even any women in our neighborhood I can talk to, because most of them have gone back to work. But there are other irritations about John, He rarely takes me out to dinner and he forgot our anniversary last month, and I honestly don’t believe he’s ever had a romantic thought. He wouldn’t know a rose from a carnation, and his Christmas cards are signed just “John.”
There’s no closeness or warmth between us, yet he expects me to become passionate and responsive to him. I’ll tell you, I can’t do it. Sure, I go along with my duties as a wife, but I sure don’t get anything out of it. And after the two-minute trip is over and John is asleep, I lie there resenting him and feeling like a cheap prostitute. Can you believe that? I feel like nobody loves me… I’m a lousy mother and terrible wife. Sometimes I think that God probably doesn’t love me, either.
Well, now I’d better tell you what is going on between John and I more recently. We’ve been arguing a lot. I mean really fighting. It’s the only way I can get his attention, I guess. We had an incredible battle last week in front of the kids. It was awful. Tears. Screaming. Insults. Everything. I spent two nights at my mother’s house. Now, all I can think about is getting a divorce so I can escape. John doesn’t love me anyway, so what difference would it make? I guess that’s why I came to see you. I want to know if I’ll be doing the right thing to call it quits.”
The question that comes to mind as you hear this is how do I avoid this type of situation and how do I have the wonderful life God intends for me to have.
You were Created to be His Meet
- To make your husband
- Your husband will not be what God wants him to be without your in his dreams
Proverbs 31:23, “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.”
You Need to be in to Your Husband
1 Peter 3:1-6, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”
- what he wants to do
- Be involved in dreams
- Ask him “What would you like to accomplish next ?”
- How can I ?
- you life around his
- Be his lifelong personal
- This passage says you will win your husband by a life, coupled with
- Fear= fear of not him- for his ideas
- His heart should be able to you
Proverbs 31:10-12, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
You need to be to Your Husband in Way- the Time
- Illustration- what would make your marriage a 10
- God commands the man to be with his wife love
Proverbs 5:15-19, “Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.”
3. God says not to each other sexual access, except to fast and pray, because of “your incontinency” lack of
4. Your husband needs you to be
5. The greatest you can give to your husband is to turn away from him
- It says, I don’t you
- It says, I don’t you
- It says, you don’t me
- It makes him feel like of a
- It decimates his self
- It makes him
- It can lead to
1 Corinthians 7:1-5, “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”
6. How does the strange woman lead the stupid boy in to sin? She makes him like a by making him feel
Proverbs 7:12-18, “Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him, I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows. Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee. I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves.”
7. How does wisdom get men to come to her- in the street.
Proverbs 8:1-4, “Doth not wisdom cry? and understanding put forth her voice? She standeth in the top of high places, by the way in the places of the paths. She crieth at the gates, at the entry of the city, at the coming in at the doors. Unto you, O men, I call; and my voice is to the sons of man.”
8. How does Jesus get us to ?
Matthew 11:27-30, “All things are delivered unto me of my Father: and no man knoweth the Son, but the Father; neither knoweth any man the Father, save the Son, and he to whomsoever the Son will reveal him. Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
- He us to come
- He always us
- He gives us
- He expresses His desire for us
- Approach your husband let him know you . Not just that you are available but that you him!
You Need to be Attractive to Your Husband
- A women will dress up to go
- Women should dress up to be with
- your for him
- Wear a nice for him
- Wear nice for him
- Dress for him
You Need to Encourage Your Husband
- When your husband comes up with a plan for you
- Family outings
- him with the plan
You Need to be Present and Interested when Your Husband’s Home
- When he is home get into what he to do
- Watch with him
- Sit to him
- Find out what he , stop what you’re doing and with him
- Wrap your around his
- Clean the
- Wash the
- Walk the
- When he goes to , with him
You Need to Ask Your Husband Questions
- What would you like to do dinner?
- Is there any way I can ?
- Do you mind if with you?
- How do you that?
- Can you me how to?
In doing these things you will encourage your husband to be the leader God wants him to be. He will be happier and more confident as a man and will become more considerate of you.