Confronting Myself

CONFRONTING MYSELF

Before you can create and maintain a healthy habit OR before you can consistently overcome a bad habit… you must CONFRONT it.

WHAT DO MY HABITS EXPOSE ABOUT ME?

Proverbs 14:8 – The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving.

Matthew 7:5 – Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.

Your habits will tell your story, either in their practice or in their results.

ARE YOU COACHABLE?

Proverbs 9:6-9 ESV (6) Leave your simple ways, and live, and walk in the way of insight. (7) Whoever corrects a scoffer gets himself abuse, and he who reproves a wicked man incurs injury. (8) Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. (9) Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.
 

How you receive someone God sends into your life to call out the blind spots in your life will determine the trajectory of your life.
 

WHO CAN CONFRONT ME ABOUT ME?

Here’s The Confrontation Litmus Test

Matthew 7:20 – Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.

God

Psalm 139:23-24 – (23) Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. (24) Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.

My Leaders

Hebrews 13:17 – Obey your spiritual leaders, and do what they say. Their work is to watch over your souls, and they are accountable to God. Give them reason to do this with joy and not with sorrow. That would certainly not be for your beneZit.

My Peers

Proverbs 27:6 – Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

James 5:19-20 – (19) My brothers and sisters, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring that person back, (20) remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death and cover over a multitude of sins.

Myself

Proverbs 4:23 – Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

There is a compelling need for confrontation, not just selfish desire. If we have relationships, confrontation is necessary. Confrontation provides a space for invitation, correction, wisdom, grace, and love, whether you confront or are the recipient of confrontation.

HOW DO I LOOK AT MYSELF IN THE MIRROR?

James 1:22-24 – (23) But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. (23) For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. (24) For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.
 

Don’t live your life fooling yourself because it’s not fooling anyone else.
 

WHAT’S AT STAKE?

Your “why” (in the context for change) must become your life’s anchor.

James 1:25 – But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing.

Deuteronomy 30:15, 19-20 – (15) Now listen! Today I am giving you a choice between life and death, between prosperity and disaster… (19) Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! (20) You can make this choice by loving the LORD your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life.

Your life and legacy are directly connected to your daily choices —your habits— and will determine your attitude, your aptitude, your altitude and your amplitude.