Ben Davis Christian Church
March 7, 2021


March 7, 2021

is the price we pay for intimacy

Differences of personality are the cause of 68% of arguments.

John 13:34

Avoiders Vs.

Every healthy relationship has conflict.

Vs. Conflict

is always for the sake of drama, but healthy conflict always seeks .

“Peace is not the absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.”
-Ronald Regan

Romans 12:18

Matthew 5:23-24
Matthew 5:15

  1. Talk to the person privately
  2. Get a 2 or 3 trusted friends
  3. Set a proportionate boundary

God is in good fights.

Are you fighting the fight?

Good Fights Vs. Bad Fights

93% of couples who fight dirty will be divorced within ten years.

Researchers can predict within 94% accuracy whether a couple will stay together based on how they fight. 

  1. Criticism
  2. Defensiveness
  3. Contempt
  4. Stonewalling

How you fight matters.

Proverbs 10:18
Proverbs 15:18

Proverbs 15:1
Ephesians 4:26

What is the win?

You can win a fight 
and still lose.

Pride Vs. Humility

Proverbs 13:10

When pride sets in, a person will continue an argument 34% of the time even if he knows he’s wrong—or can’t remember what the fight was about, and a full 74% will fight on even if they feel “it’s a losing battle.”

From the earth

Good fights are fought with the goal of peace.
Good fights reflect mutual respect.
Good fights are characterized by humility.


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