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Our Imperfect Family Part 5 – Guardians of a Generation
June 27, 2021

Our Imperfect Family Part 5 – Guardians of a Generation

June 27, 2021



  1. If our kids were they would have no need of us! 

Proverbs 22:6 NLT  Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.

TPT: Dedicate your children to God and point them in the way that they should go, and the values they’ve learned from you will be with them for life.

  1. The goal of parenting is , not obedience.  

Ephesians 6:1-4 NLT  Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise:  If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”

HONOR:  To show high regard and respect.  To count as valuable, to esteem, value, honor or to revere. 

We begin with obedience and them to honor.

Galatians 3:24 AMP    the Law has become our tutor and our disciplinarian to guide us to Christ, so that we may be justified [that is, declared free of the guilt of sin and its penalty, and placed in right standing with God] by faith.

                 LAW                                                                                  SPIRIT

      Death & Bondage                                                                   Life & liberty

         Obedience                                                                                Honor

     Duty & Obligation                                                                  Love & Service

     Parent controlled                                                                   Self-controlled 

  1. Rules without relationship = . 

Honor rises from a .

Instruction without explanation = .

  1. As parents we set the for the relationship. 

Ephesians  6:4 TLB  And now a word to you parents.  Don’t keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful.  Rather, bring them up with the loving discipline the Lord himself approves, with suggestions and godly advice.

MSG: Fathers, don’t frustrate your children with no-win scenarios.  Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.

Colossians 3:21  TLB:  Don’t scold your children so much they become discouraged and quit trying.

AMP:  Do not break their spirit.

Discipline for a

One of the strongest forms of discipline is reinforcement.

Proverbs 15:23  NLT  Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!

Parent by , not by fear.

  1. Do you treat your son or daughter as a child, an adult, or as a “

1 Corinthians 13:11 NIV   When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.


They protect from . 

They instill .

They establish .

They convey . 


  1. Guardrails that are too or narrow create problems.

TOO WIDE  – No repercussions, no boundaries, no limits

TOO NARROW – People in a box   

+  It constricts them – provoke them

  1. Guardrails will need to be regularly adjusted according to and maturity.

Are your guidelines appropriate?  

The older the child the more they should have.

  1.  Guardrails are only meant for the sections of life we deem as life

Pick your top 6-8 absolutes.

Major on the and minor on the

  1. Some of the greatest lessons in life are learned in the .

Allow them to experience it.

 We’re often guilty of them.

  1. If our children never experience the of the road” they will never learn danger is eminent.

Allow them to learn the of their conscience.  

Give them the right to or make a mistake.

Always leave them a runaway ramp! 

1 Corinthians 10:13 NLT   The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

  1. Be when determining the location of the guardrails.
  2. Be willing to a guardrail. 

Continually expand your trust level.

Our ultimate goal as a parent is to become a on their journey of life.

  1. Seek the of those who have walked this road.

Proverbs 15:22 NLT  Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.

Proverbs 24:6 NLT  So don’t go to war without wise guidance; victory depends on having many advisers.


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