A Different Kind of Love: Handling Conflict 

A Different Kind of Love: Handling Conflict 
Pastor Blake Hanson | 3.9.25

Every couple has conflict and God is concerned with how you handle that conflict. 

Song of Solomon 2:4–5 (NLT)

4 He escorts me to the banquet hall; it’s obvious how much he loves me. 

5 Strengthen me with raisin cakes, refresh me with apples, for I am weak with love.

Song of Solomon 4:16 (NLT)

16 Awake, north wind! Rise up, south wind! Blow on my garden and spread its fragrance all around. Come into your garden, my love; taste its finest fruits.

Song of Solomon 2:17 (NLT)

17 Before the dawn breezes blow and the night shadows flee, return to me, my love, like a gazelle or a young stag on the rugged mountains.

Song of Solomon 5:2–3 (NLT)

2 I slept, but my heart was awake, when I heard my lover knocking and calling: “Open to me, my treasure, my darling, my dove, my perfect one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night.” 

Song of Solomon 5:3 (NLT)

3 But I responded, “I have taken off my robe. Should I get dressed again? I have washed my feet. Should I get them soiled?”

TWO MAJOR CAUSES OF CONFLICT

1. Unmet

2. – 

Song of Solomon 5:4–6 (NLT)

4 My lover tried to unlatch the door, and my heart thrilled within me. 

5 I jumped up to open the door for my love, and my hands dripped with perfume. My fingers dripped with lovely myrrh as I pulled back the bolt. 

6 I opened to my lover, but he was gone! My heart sank. I searched for him but could not find him anywhere. I called to him, but there was no reply.

THREE ESSENTIALS FOR RESOLVING CONFLICT 

Allow the to lead your response verse reacting in your . 

Romans 8:5–6 (NLT)

5 Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. 

6 So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace.

Ephesians 5:25 (NLT)

25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her

Focus on the not the . 

Philippians 4:8 (NLT)

8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.

Choose to and not . 

Ephesians 4:26–27 (NLT)

26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 

27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.

Song of Solomon 6:11–12 (NLT)

11 I went down to the grove of walnut trees and out to the valley to see the new spring growth, to see whether the grapevines had budded or the pomegranates were in bloom. 

12 Before I realized it, my strong desires had taken me to the chariot of a noble man.

NOTES

Join us Wednesday @ 7pm
Give Here
Follow Us On Instagram Here