Can We Talk? – Please Stop Fighting

Pastor Bryan – Can we Talk?

PLEASE STOP FIGHTING…

^2 “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. ³ Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.”

Ephesians 4:2-3

MARRIAGE ISSUES THAT CAUSE ISSUES

• Treating it like a .
• Poor .
• Unrealistic .
• Neglecting .
• Cultural messaging around .
• Underestimating .

^9 “let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

Mark 10:9

FIXING WHAT’S BROKEN

1. Reframe marriage as a .

^12 “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”

Ecclesiastes 4:12

        2. before you say I do.

^2 “Enthusiasm without knowledge is no good; haste makes mistakes.”

Proverbs 19:2

²⁸ “But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it?”

Luke 14:28

^14 “Without wise leadership, a nation falls; there is safety in having many advisers.”

Proverbs 11:14

        3. Cultivate expectations.

^4 “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud ⁵ or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.⁶ It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. ⁷ Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

I Corinthians 13:4-7

        4. Practice regularly.

^31 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. ³² Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”

Ephesians 4:31-32

        5. Develop a of marriage.

⁴ Give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another in marriage…

Hebrews 13:4

        6. Get .

^12 “For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.”

Ephesians 6:12