Sacred Garden | Week 6 | Sacred Conflict
Song of Solomon 5:2-6:3 | Pastor Keoni Hughes
8 Tactics to Overcome The Conflicts of Marriage
1. Understand the Conflict | v. 2-3
“What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel.” – James 4:1-2a
2. Remember Your Differences | v. 4-5
Men and Women
Family of Origin
3. Be Honest About the Conflict | v. 6
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.” – Matthew 18:15
“If your spouse sins against you pretend it didn’t offend you, hurt you and ignore your relational issues, then you will be blessed.” – ESV… Extremely Stupid Version
4. Give a Cool Down Period | v. 6
5. Allow Conviction to Lead to Correction | v. 7
“For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.” – Galatians 5:17
6. Beware of Bad Counsel | v. 9
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves too much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” – Titus 2:3-5
7. Remember What Brought You Together | v. 10-16
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.” – Ephesians 5:25-27
8. Make Up! | 6:2-3
Christ Connection
Discussion Questions
What are some tactics you’ve developed for conflict resolution?
What are some differences you’ve seen in how you approach conflict?
What’s the danger in denying your feelings in a conflict?
How could you find the good in your spouse in conflict?
What power is there in knowing Christ has united us to the Father?