It’s Complicated

Part 1: How to Deal with Difficult People

September 20, 2026

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Hebrews 12:15 (NIV) See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.

 

Some battles are for your , other battles are a .

 

1 Samuel 25:30-31 (NIV) When the LORD has fulfilled for my lord every good thing he promised concerning him and has appointed him ruler over Israel, my lord will not have on his conscience the staggering burden of needless bloodshed or of having avenged himself.

 

Don’t Let Their Behavior Determine Your Response

Romans 12:17-21

 

5 Signs You’re the Difficult Person

1. is your excuse, not your value.
2. Your come with fine print.
3. Everyone in your story is the
4. You keep on people you love.

How To Deal with Difficult People

• Refuse to with evil.

 

Romans 12:17 (NIV) Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.

• Pursue as far as it on you.

 

Romans 12:18 (NIV) If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

• Forgiveness does not mean .
• Forgiveness does not immediately .
• Reconciliation requires .
• Peace does not always require .
• Love does not require .

 

• Release to God.

 

Romans 12:19 (NIV) Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

• Respond to with good.

 

Romans 12:20–21 (NIV) On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

 

Matthew 5:44 (NIV) But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

 

Offense may , but it doesn’t have to .